The Five of Cups (Hearts) was the card I pulled to meditate on this week. Although I have faced disappointment in the past, I feel as if I am heading out of the tunnel of grief, if ever so slowly. About two weeks ago, my relationship with my in-laws changed dramatically. Since that time, I have come to terms with that change and see that I needed to step back from his family, perhaps not completely, but find a way to be not as close to them as I was once upon a time. I was warned by friends who have been through divorce that my perceived closeness with his mom and dad would have to alter. They of course couldn’t be loyal to him and to me since he has chosen to be my enemy. I didn’t want that; in fact I tried for the sake of the children involved to be at least friendly. Still, not all the cups or hearts are lost, spilled, broken. There is hope and there is other ways to go about having a relationship without the closeness there once was.
The Universe opens doors. It is up to me to understand the path to happiness and peace within my own heart. I feel I am on the journey and walking the right path. There will be challenges and disappointments but I am feeling so much stronger and confident as I travel out of the dark woods of divorce and into the valley filled with sunlight of singleness.
On my own but never alone.
Five of Cups
Most people aren’t too happy when the Five of Cups appears in a reading, and for good reason. This is a card whose meanings are quite simple: sadness, grief, disappointment and regret. Often these feelings will arise because of actions such as those pictured on the Four of Cups; taking love for granted and not valuing every person or thing in our lives that make us feel special. The Four predicted that all would be lost if nothing was taken to divert the path of events, and when this advice is not heeded, the Five of Cups becomes the inevitable result.
The Five of Cups usually is not a sign of existing hardship, but a warning so you may change your course in time. But often you will be too late, and the saddening event will happen despite your best efforts. This can be a broken relationship, a divorce, or the loss of a friend. No matter what the event or its reasons for happening, the effect is the same. The pain fills your mind, just as the tragic scene on the card burns itself into your memory so you can’t forget it. To some it would seem that there is no way out of this situation, but the Tarot always shows problems on one hand and solutions on the other. In persistence of vision lies the key to overcoming the sadness.
This is pictured universally by a number of cups that have been spilled, but one or two that are left standing, out of sight of the grieving figure on the card. But they are well within your view if you look closely enough. While it is true that much has been lost, there is still a ray of hope because some of the cups remain full and upright. You must not pity the man on this card, and you must not pity yourself when you find yourself in his situation. After all, there is a way out of you will stop crying and open your eyes. You will have to work on it, but there it is.
Sometimes you also have to remember that change never happens just for the sake of change. There is always a reason for the disturbance, an imbalance that must be eliminated or a wrong that must be righted. In these cases, even a disastrous change can be beneficial. A relationship without love is bound to fall apart anyway, so it may be better that it fails sooner than later. The Five of Cups tells you to be thankful for what is left, don’t worry about what cannot be changed, and turn a setback into a step forward. Never let your tears stop you from seeing what is left over.
This page was made by James Rioux (The Black Shadow), email@example.com.
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